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Day 30 Prayer: Marriage

We are on our 30th day of praying for our spouse and children. What a journey this has been! What you may not know is that the Lord put this on my heart about six months ago. I didn’t want to obey. My first thought was, that means I have to write every day. I enjoy writing, but with my busy schedule, it can be difficult to find the time to write. My second thought was, could I actually write about marriage for 30 days? Well, I have found plenty to write about and God provided not only the words, but the time.

We have covered a lot of ground this month. We’ve looked at communication, our speech, faithfulness, love, and so much more. My prayer is that we would continue to pray for our families. One of the ministries, here, in Mexico has a motto that says, “Fight for Families.” I love that. We are fighting. We are fighting against the rulers of this dark world (Ephesians 6:12). Your spouse is not your enemy. I want to urge you to fight for your marriage because there is nothing that shines the love of Christ brighter in this world than a healthy marriage.

Early on in our marriage, I realized that people don’t wake up after 20 years of marriage and decide to get divorced. It happens over time. Every day you are either drawing closer to your spouse, or drawing farther away. For instance, if you have an argument and you don’t resolve it. The next day you wake up harboring bitterness and that anger or resentment keeps growing until you come back together and can forgive. If you just keep going day after day without resolving the issue, you soon realize you have grown so far apart you don’t even recognize the other person.

You have to keep building that relationship. You have to come together, daily and talk, commune, spend time listening to one another, joking, laughing, and crying; sharing thoughts and emotions.

God created marriage. It’s a good thing. It’s a place where life begins. Is it difficult? Yes. Does it expose our weakness? Yes. But by understanding our weaknesses, we then can go to our Heavenly Father and ask Him to change us into the beautiful vessel He wants to make us into.

I used to believe that I was just a pile of broken glass laying on the floor, waiting to be swept up and tossed into the trash. The Lord showed me one day, that instead of a pile of dirty broken pieces, I was a beautiful glass mosaic candle holder, waiting to shine His light through.

That can be you, too, regardless of the past you have. No matter what your marriage was like yesterday. Today is a new day, my friend! Take hold of it! Tell Satan to back off and rejoice because we know the One who conquered death! When your spouse walks through that door, love on him! Tell him how much you appreciate what he does. Find something to affirm him. You will be blessed when you do.

Day 30 Prayer: Marriage

Lord, thank you so much for creating the unity of husband and wife. Help me to see the beauty of it even when it’s difficult. Please take away my selfish pride, jealousy, and anything else that prevents me from seeing my spouse the way you do. Give me the grace to be able to love regardless of what I get in return. I want to love with a selfless love. Help me to be patient and kind, always forgiving, and never rude. Remind me that when my husband wraps his arms around me, it’s as if you are saying “I love you.” Thank you for creating marriage and giving me someone to love.

“Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A chord of three strands is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:12

 

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Day 23 Prayer: Courage

I have a friend who jokes that if a burglar came into their house, she would have to be the one scoping out the place with a baseball bat in one hand and her husband in tow, in the other. I laugh at this because in her case, it’s most likely true.

It seems like some people are definitely more courageous than others. The cowardly lion comes to mind in The Wizard of Oz, as an example of someone lacking courage. I have found myself feeling like the lion many times, especially when it comes to uncertainty or agony.

My husband, on the other hand, is a great man of courage. I watched as he kept our family safe from bears, snow hazards, car problems, etc. He isn’t afraid to help the helpless, or stand up for what’s right. He has been a great example to our children.

Whether your spouse or kids are full of bravery, or lean more on the side of cowardice, let’s pray that whatever situation they face, they would bring it to God and that He would fill them with peace and the courage to fight the slinging arrows.

Day 23 Prayer: Courage

Thank God that He never leaves us or forsakes us.

If you are going through a trial, pray for the courage and the strength to see the trial to its end.

Pray for your spouse and kids to be able to stand up when necessary, and fight for what’s right.

Pray for confidence and assurance that can only come from the Lord.

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6

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Day 12 Prayer: Peace

As I take a look at our world, I quickly recognize that people are not at peace. I see turmoil everywhere. I see it in the news, in the streets, in schools, and in homes.

If it breaks my heart, I know it breaks God’s heart.

Where does peace come from? But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control.” Galatians 5:22

Peace comes from the Holy Spirit, so the more we draw close to Him, the more our old self dies, producing good fruit. Thus, we will look different to the world, because our very actions will be Christ-like.

Many times people have walked into our home and said, “Its so peaceful here.” It’s not because of anything I did, believe me. That is all God. God brings peace.

When we keep our focus on God, we have peace. How many of us have been through difficult things and when we rely on ourself, we have anxiety and fear. But, when we give it over to the Lord, His peace, which surpasses all understanding, sweeps over us. “You will keep him in perfect peace all who trust in you, all whose thoughts are fixed on you.” Isaiah 26:3

Day 12 Prayer: Peace

Thank Him that we can have peace in our lives and homes.

If your home is not a home of peace and comfort, pray that God would show you what needs to change. Pray that love would sweep over your household. Without love, peace isn’t possible.

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world!” John 16:33

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Day 11 Prayer: Obedience

I’ve been thinking a lot about the word obedience lately. This past week, its come up a few times with the students at the school in Mexico.

Is it true obedience when we do what we are asked, but with grumbling and complaining? In our discussion at school, the students decided it’s not true obedience when our heart isn’t in the correct place.

In 1 Samuel 15:22 it says, “Obedience is better than sacrifice, and submission is better than offering the fat of rams. Rebellion is as witchcraft, and stubbornness as bad as worshiping idols.”

Ouch! I haven’t met one person who isn’t stubborn in some way or another. Tenacity is a good thing especially when you have to push through something really difficult. But, when we rebel and are stubborn “just because,” we have a more serious problem on our hands.

Obedience happens when we obey with a humble heart and a right spirit. God often asks me to do things that I bulk at. I have to check my heart and my reasons for not wanting to obey. When I realize the bigger picture and trust God, I gladly do whatever HE is asking if me.

When we love God, we obey Him. As I grow closer to God, the more I desire to do what He asks, without complaining. (Including submission to an imperfect husband!)

Day 11 Prayer for Obedience

Thank God that He gives us the ability to obey.

If you have disobedience in your life, pray that He would reveal it to you and give you the desire to obey. If you struggle with fear of trusting God completely, pray that your focus wouldn’t be in the “what if”, but the “I am.”

Pray for your spouse and children to obey God with a pure and loving heart, without grumbling or complaining. If rebellion is happening, pray that they would have a heart that desires to do God’s will, instead of their own will.

“Father, if you are willing, please take this cup from me. Yet not my will, but yours be done.” Luke 22:42

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Day 10 Prayer: Our Attitude

Recently one of my students walked into the classroom with a downtrodden face. He looked at the floor and wouldn’t make eye contact. His dad explained that he had a rough morning because he didn’t get his way on something.

His father helped him get his things put away and stayed for a few minutes. He then said to his son, “You can decide to have a good day or a bad day. The choice is yours.” To which his son replied, “Um…I choose bad.” (At that point, I began to pray because I was going to be the one one dealing with the bad attitude while he was at school.)

The above statement is so true. We have a choice. We can let one thing ruin our mood, or we can choose to not let it get us down.

Are we operating in the flesh? In my own life, when I let one thing ruin my day, it’s because I was so focused on that thing that it appeared everything was going wrong. I didn’t look at all the good that happened. I couldn’t see it. I chose to be blind to it. In some way, maybe it fed my fleshly side of self pity or stubbornness.

We have the choice to choose what kind of attitude we will have. There is a saying that I really like that says, “There are 86,400 seconds in a day. Don’t let someone’s 10 seconds ruin the 86,390 seconds left in the day.”

I am happy to report that the student that came into class unhappy was able to change his attitude and ended up having a good day.

Day 10 Prayer: Attitude

“Enter into His gates with thanksgiving and into His courts with praise. Be thankful to Him, and bless His name.” Psalm 100:4

Thank God that He gave us emotions, that enable us to have feelings.

Pray that your family would be able to see the beautiful blessings in each and every day.

If you, your spouse, or kids has a poor attitude on a regular basis, pray that God would soften their heart and they would be able to start seeing things in a different light.

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Day 9 Prayer: Healthy Body

When my husband gets sick it usually lingers on and on, to the point where he needs to get antibiotics. Sometimes it’s scary seeing him struggle through and never being sure if it will turn into something more serious.

Living in Mexico, he has been sick a great deal with sinus infections and back aches. It seems like once he gets healthy, something else comes along. I have spent many hours praying for him.

God hasn’t healed him completely, but he has kept depression away. Depression just seems to come with the territory of not feeling well. We’ve been able to take it one day at a time and keep praying.

Maybe you or a loved one are having some health issues. Whether it’s something simple or more severe, like cancer let’s pray for health.

Day 9 Prayer: Healthy Body

If you, your spouse, or children are healthy, say a prayer of thankfulness.

If sickness or injury is upon you, pray for healing in your household.

Pray for God’s perfect timing. Sometimes it’s in the waiting that He is doing something bigger than we can see.

Jesus said, The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, He has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind, to set the oppressed free.” Luke 4:18

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Day 8 Prayer: Surrender

Surrender. We all do it to someone or something, yet it can seem like a bad word. Although the word surrender is a little easier to hear than the other word…submit.

Whichever word you like better, either way we are called to put down our needs and/or wants to another.

People are selfish by nature. I see so often in marriages where many arguments could be stopped if they would consider the other person above themself.

Philippians 2:3 says, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourself.”

The Bible does tell wives to submit. This is a fact. To me it makes sense. You can’t have two people in charge. Even in business, there is one boss who makes the decisions. A good boss will listen to what others have to say and hopefully make a wise decision once all input has been made. My husband asks me for my thoughts on everyday matters. He likes to listen to what I have to say and wants to know what my thoughts are.

We don’t always agree. But, I trust my husband and even if I don’t agree, I know I am free and did the right thing by supporting his decision. Then, if it ends up being the wrong decision, he answers for it, not me. I never tell him, “I told you so.” Because he already knows and that would just be rude.

I may suffer the consequences of bad decisions, but that’s part of life and learning and doing it together.

Day 8 Prayer: Surrender

Thank God that Jesus was our example and washed the disciples stinky, calloused feet, becoming a servant. Then He died a criminals death, being spat on, with skin shredded, crucified, then said forgive them.

Pray that God would show you areas that you need to change and surrender those to God.

Pray that your husband would surrender his life to God and seek His guidance daily to lead your family.

For your kids, pray that they would surrender to the Lord first and foremost so that they will be able to see other people’s needs and help in areas where they are able.