“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1
It’s New Year’s Eve and my family has all been sick with stuffy noses, sore throats, itchy-watery eyes – classic cold flu symptoms. Some of us have been sick since Christmas. Some are just starting the unwelcome illness. Regardless, I have been doing a lot of thinking lately as the old year winds down and the new year begins.
I am not one that makes New Year’s resolutions. Most of the time the resolutions fail, leaving people feeling worse than they did before. However, I do think goals are a good thing especially when you go to God first to ask what things He would change in your life.
My husband and I get asked one consistent question quite regularly…”What are your parenting secrets? It’s usually followed by a similar question of, “How do I get a marriage like yours?” We usually laugh it off, but try to give some advice. These are serious questions and the short answer is…God.
I feel that our society is lacking relationship. I see it everyday. We are so busy and even when we think we are doing something “good” for someone and/or our communities, usually our close family relationships suffer as a result.
Our motto at Cherith Brook Baja is Love the One in Front of You. I believe its what Jesus did and He is our example. He spent time with people. He ate with them, listened to them, spoke into their lives, and gave them what they needed. He didn’t give them what they thought they needed – He gave what He knew they needed.
All that to say, I want to encourage families to have real relationship. Put the cell phone down, spend time loving on, talking and listening to, and feasting with your families.
So, instead of a resolution, I would like to do 30 days of praying for our children and spouse. If you would like to join me in this, each day I will post what I am praying for specifically. You will begin to get a glimpse of what our family has done over the years to get a Godly marriage and to have three kids that walk with the Lord. Please understand, we are not perfect. Our family has its arguments and struggles. I do not claim that our family is the way it is because of a formula. In hard times, we simply cried out. We sought the Lord and sometimes we had to wait for the answer, making us cry out even more.
I believe marriage and families are under attack and I think this is worth fighting for!
So, here is Day 1 of praying…
God first! (I always read my Bible in the morning.)
Myself: Praying that I would be an encouraging wife. I pray my words would bring life, not death to my husband and kids.
Spouse: Praying for his spiritual walk, that he would be the Godly man you have called him to be. That he would be able to show love to me and the kids. This includes being able to say “no” when he needs to and to discipline in a manner that is firm but loving.
Children: Today I am praying for their spiritual walks as well. That they would have their own relationship with God, so they can combat the lies this world sells them.
(Even though our children are older, I still pray for them everyday.)
“…and what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.” Micah 6:8