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Day 24 Prayer: Wisdom

I believe we all have a person in our life who offers wisdom. For me, I have had several people whom I respect and listen to.

As I have gotten older, I realize just how much wisdom is lacking, so when I find someone who is a person of godly knowledge, I want to glean everything I can from them.

When I was newly married and a young mom, I wondered how other moms accomplished so much. I looked for an older, experienced lady to ask questions to and get encouragement from. Oftentimes I would find myself at my parents house or on the phone asking my mom for advice.

“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction.”

The fear of the Lord is a holy, reverent fear. It’s knowing that He is in control and if I truly love and trust Him, I won’t need to worry.

I know when I have not listened to wisdom, I have found myself in situations that I could have avoided. I guess you could say, I listened to worldly wisdom, not godly wisdom.

I have known many people who have knowledge and can talk all day long about what they know. They may know some interesting facts and have parts of books memorized, and can quote all kinds of philosophers, but in the end it’s empty knowledge.

Day 24 Prayer: Wisdom

If you have people in your life that you can go to for godly advice and wisdom, thank God for them.

Pray that you would be a wise woman and build your house, not a foolish one that tears it down with your own hands. (Proverbs 14:1)

Pray for godly wisdom for your spouse and kids; that when decisions need to be made, he wouldn’t be overwhelmed, but that he would seek God’s guidance and trust that he will guide your steps. Proverbs 3:13 says,”Blessed are those who find wisdom, those who gain understanding.”

If you or your spouse don’t have a godly mentor, pray for one to come into your life. Or, have him bring to mind someone already in your life that you could go to.

“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” James 1:5

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Day 23 Prayer: Courage

I have a friend who jokes that if a burglar came into their house, she would have to be the one scoping out the place with a baseball bat in one hand and her husband in tow, in the other. I laugh at this because in her case, it’s most likely true.

It seems like some people are definitely more courageous than others. The cowardly lion comes to mind in The Wizard of Oz, as an example of someone lacking courage. I have found myself feeling like the lion many times, especially when it comes to uncertainty or agony.

My husband, on the other hand, is a great man of courage. I watched as he kept our family safe from bears, snow hazards, car problems, etc. He isn’t afraid to help the helpless, or stand up for what’s right. He has been a great example to our children.

Whether your spouse or kids are full of bravery, or lean more on the side of cowardice, let’s pray that whatever situation they face, they would bring it to God and that He would fill them with peace and the courage to fight the slinging arrows.

Day 23 Prayer: Courage

Thank God that He never leaves us or forsakes us.

If you are going through a trial, pray for the courage and the strength to see the trial to its end.

Pray for your spouse and kids to be able to stand up when necessary, and fight for what’s right.

Pray for confidence and assurance that can only come from the Lord.

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6

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Day 22 Prayer: Faithfulness

“Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, and today, and forever” Hebrews 13:8

The dictionary definition of faithfulness is loyal, constant, steadfast. God is definitely faithful, unchanging. I wish we could say the same about ourselves. Unfortunately, being flawed humans, it’s not possible without Christ.

So many of us have experienced unfaithfulness. How do you get over rejection? How do you forgive without somewhere, in the back of your mind, you still think about what happened?

I have known couples who have had many struggles, whether it be an online affair, physical affair, or an emotional affair, they finally make it through those difficult times by choosing to love and forgive.

It doesn’t happen overnight, but if both parties are willing, restoration can happen. God is the healer of broken hearts.

How many times have I broken God’s heart by cheating on Him? Every time I give in to temptation or desire something that I know isn’t good for me, I am cheating on Him.

The good news is, God is unchanging, loyal, constant, and steadfast. He is faithful. We can count on Him to forgive and take us back into His loving arms. He leaves the 99 to go after the one lost lamb.

Day 22 Prayer: Faithfulness

Thank God that restoration is possible; not only with our spouse, but with kids also.

Pray for loyalty and faithfulness within your family.

If infidelity has occurred, pray for the strength to forgive once and for all.

Lastly and most importantly, pray that you would be faithful to God; that your needs and wants wouldn’t become the focal point of your life. If you are faithful to Christ, everything else will fall into place.

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.” Matthew 22:37

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Day 21 Prayer: Sound Mind

Thoughts can run away from us. Sometimes I find myself laying in bed mulling over the day. Soon, I am not just thinking about the day, but I am thinking about comments that were said; how I should have answered differently. Or, maybe I was silent and wished I had spoken up and possibly defended myself. I go down the rabbit trail of how I will respond next time.

In reality, it’s not a good thing to start that line of thinking. I have found it leads to anxiety, worry, and in some cases depression.

The Bible says we need to take every thought captive to obey Christ. (2 Corinthians 10:5) the key word is to obey. If I am thinking thoughts of how I would retort back to someone, that tells me my heart is not in the right place. Maybe being silent was actually the godly response. Jesus didn’t always defend himself.

Our minds can be a whirlwind of deception and imagination. Thank goodness we can have the mind of Christ. As we grow and learn to discern better what is true, we are able to put away ungodly thoughts.

When my husband faces depression, I am able to recognize the signs and start praying for him immediately. He will often ask me, “Have you been praying for me?” He knows I am, because the depression tends to not linger as long as it once did.

With the stress this world offers, we need to diligently be praying for our spouse’s thoughts. It’s easy to go down unwanted rabbit trails and with our hyper sexual society, thoughts can go wrong in a flash.

Day 21 Prayer: Sound Mind

Pray for a wise and discerning mind.

Pray that your family would take to heart Philippians 4:8, which says, “Whatsoever things are true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on these things.”

Pray that you would be able to take every unpleasant thought captive.

Thank God for the mind that he has given to you and your spouse and pray that you will be unity and likemindedness in all things.

“You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you.” Isaiah 26:3

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Day 20 Prayer: To be a Good Father

I love my dad. My father is one of the most humble, gentle people you will ever meet. Is he perfect? No. However, his Godly example is bearing fruit not only in my life, but in the life of my kids.

My earliest memories are of him reading his Bible every morning while eating his breakfast. (My mom did this, too, but we are talking about fathers.)

My dad is a hard worker, a man of integrity, and has great knowledge and wisdom. He also has a funny side. He is a man of few words, but when he speaks, we always wonder if he will say something wise or funny.

Maybe you didn’t have a good father. Maybe your dad wasn’t even around. It saddens my heart when I hear stories of fathers who didn’t stand up to the plate, and were absent or were abusive either verbally or physically.

The wonderful thing is, we can pray for our husbands to be a good father to our children. Regardless of their upbringing, God can do awesome things in the heart of a man who is willing and ready.

Day 20 Prayer: To be a Good Father

Thank God for the children he has given to you and your spouse.

Pray that your husband will be a Godly example to your kids.

Pray that he will not provoke your children to anger. (Ephesians 6:4) If this has happened in the past, pray that he would be able to use his words wisely and discipline without anger.

Pray that he would be able to communicate and be interested in your children. If he struggles with the desire to be an interactive father, start there. Pray for a change of heart.

“The righteous who walks in his integrity-blessed are his children after him.” Proverbs 20:7

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Day 19 Prayer: Coming Out of Comfort Zones

When we were in the Philippines, we asked one of the Pastors what his vision was for the ministry. His reply has stuck with me.

He said, “I want to get this church established and raise up a leader, so I can go to other parts of the Philippines and start more churches to spread the gospel.”

I thought, wow! I like his vision. But, what a difficult one. He was willing to start fresh. To give up what he had worked so hard for, to continue reaching people. For him, it wasn’t about how many people came to his church. He just wanted to reach more people. This seemed like such a different concept than what I have seen in American churches.

I struggle with my comfort zone. Some maybe thinking, you?! I know we lived off-grid where we had to haul water everyday and didn’t have conventional electricity and Now we are living in Mexico. But, These things are just giving up some modern comforts.

To volunteer at a rehab home or walking through the red light district inviting drug addicts to church, that’s way out of my comfort zone. However, I have been blessed every time I do it.

It’s baby steps. Like the Pastor in the Philippines, I’m sure when he started his first church, he was anxious and wondering how it was all going to work. Seeing God work out all the details and watching people get excited for Christ, I bet it spurred him on to go a little further and continue God’s work.

Day 19 Prayer: Coming Out of Our Comfort Zone

Thank God that He stretches us beyond what we think we are capable of.

Pray for you and your spouse to step out in faith and do something that is uncharacteristic. For your husband, it may be as simple as leading your family in a Bible study, which can be difficult for a lot of men and way out of their comfort zone.

Pray that your kids will be willing to go beyond what they normally do. Maybe it’s talking to a friend about Christ.

Pray for an opportunity to talk as a family about what God’s vision is for your family as a whole.

“But be doers of the Word, not hearers only.” James 1:22

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Day 18 Prayer: Teachable

A little secret about me…my love language is words of affirmation. It’s not that I seek out good things said about me, but when they come, it fills my soul. This being the case, the opposite is true. If someone corrects me or tells me I did something wrong, it hurts. I hate to admit the first part of that sentence. Correction. Thank goodness as I have gotten older and wiser, it doesn’t hurt as bad to be corrected. I don’t know if I can say I love correction like it says in Proverbs I should do. But, I am farther along than I was as a child.

“Whoever loves instruction and discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates reproof and correction is stupid.” Proverbs 12:1 AMP

After going through my divorce many years ago, I was broken. I had come to the end of myself. The fa├žade of a perfect life was gone. I knew I needed to change some things and thank goodness I had mentors in my life to help with the process. The changes were needed and I was wanting to be teachable.

“Fear of the Lord is the foundation of true knowledge…” Proverbs 1:7 

I used to joke that I felt like God had me on a very short leash; that I couldn’t get away with anything, even if I tried. As I looked around at friends and the things they did that were wrong, I couldn’t figure out how they were getting away with it. One day as I was discussing this with my husband, he said, “You know, I don’t think God has you on a short leash. I believe you are willing to listen when He first gets your attention.” That was such a revelation to me.

Because I had fear of the Lord, that enabled me to stop the sin before it grew to full maturity, causing death. (James 1:15) When God corrects, He doesn’t just leave us there. He helps guide and direct us, and lead us away from the sin.

Now,  I am happy to say I put away the childish things I used to do and now am teachable and correctible.  My desire to be a good wife and mom overrode how I felt when I am corrected. I know correction is needed. I know in order to grow in the Lord, it is necessary. Think about how our lives would have been different if Adam corrected Eve.

Day 18 Prayer: Teachable

Reflect and think about your life. Are you teachable?

If correction is needed in your life, seek God so that He can show you areas that need to be changed. Are you willing to listen?

If you need to correct someone, pray beforehand. Pray that God would give you the proper love to show that person. Pray for them to receive what you have to say. If you are needing to correct your spouse or child, pray that you would not come across as condemning, but honestly wanting to help them draw closer to the Lord. I tried not to correct my husband in front of anyone else. I would wait until we were alone and after much prayer, bring my thoughts to him.

“A wise man will hear and increase learning, and a man of understanding will attain wise counsel.” Proverbs 1:5