A little secret about me…my love language is words of affirmation. It’s not that I seek out good things said about me, but when they come, it fills my soul. This being the case, the opposite is true. If someone corrects me or tells me I did something wrong, it hurts. I hate to admit the first part of that sentence. Correction. Thank goodness as I have gotten older and wiser, it doesn’t hurt as bad to be corrected. I don’t know if I can say I love correction like it says in Proverbs I should do. But, I am farther along than I was as a child.
“Whoever loves instruction and discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates reproof and correction is stupid.” Proverbs 12:1 AMP
After going through my divorce many years ago, I was broken. I had come to the end of myself. The façade of a perfect life was gone. I knew I needed to change some things and thank goodness I had mentors in my life to help with the process. The changes were needed and I was wanting to be teachable.
“Fear of the Lord is the foundation of true knowledge…” Proverbs 1:7
I used to joke that I felt like God had me on a very short leash; that I couldn’t get away with anything, even if I tried. As I looked around at friends and the things they did that were wrong, I couldn’t figure out how they were getting away with it. One day as I was discussing this with my husband, he said, “You know, I don’t think God has you on a short leash. I believe you are willing to listen when He first gets your attention.” That was such a revelation to me.
Because I had fear of the Lord, that enabled me to stop the sin before it grew to full maturity, causing death. (James 1:15) When God corrects, He doesn’t just leave us there. He helps guide and direct us, and lead us away from the sin.
Now, I am happy to say I put away the childish things I used to do and now am teachable and correctible. My desire to be a good wife and mom overrode how I felt when I am corrected. I know correction is needed. I know in order to grow in the Lord, it is necessary. Think about how our lives would have been different if Adam corrected Eve.
Day 18 Prayer: Teachable
Reflect and think about your life. Are you teachable?
If correction is needed in your life, seek God so that He can show you areas that need to be changed. Are you willing to listen?
If you need to correct someone, pray beforehand. Pray that God would give you the proper love to show that person. Pray for them to receive what you have to say. If you are needing to correct your spouse or child, pray that you would not come across as condemning, but honestly wanting to help them draw closer to the Lord. I tried not to correct my husband in front of anyone else. I would wait until we were alone and after much prayer, bring my thoughts to him.
“A wise man will hear and increase learning, and a man of understanding will attain wise counsel.” Proverbs 1:5